Moving Beyond the Shallow: Deepening Our Prayer Lives

Prayer can often be a source of frustration for me—not just in my own practice, but also when observing how others pray. It’s not that the intentions behind these prayers are wrong. In fact, they are often heartfelt and sincere. Yet at times, the focus seems misplaced. Perhaps “shallow” isn’t the perfect word, so let me explain.

By “shallow,” I’m referring to how our prayers tend to center on what we can see and touch—physical health, finances, safety, and other tangible concerns. While these are undoubtedly important, I can’t help but feel we often neglect something far greater: the deeper, unseen aspects of our spiritual lives.

Take, for example, Paul’s prayer for the believers in Colossae:

“For this reason also, since the day we heard this, we haven’t stopped praying for you. We are asking that you may be filled with the knowledge of his will in all wisdom and spiritual understanding, so that you may walk worthy of the Lord, fully pleasing to him: bearing fruit in every good work and growing in the knowledge of God, being strengthened with all power, according to his glorious might, so that you may have great endurance and patience, joyfully giving thanks to the Father, who has enabled you to share in the saints’ inheritance in the light. He has rescued us from the domain of darkness and transferred us into the kingdom of the Son he loves. In him we have redemption, the forgiveness of sins.” (Colossians 1:9–14, CSB)

Notice the content of Paul’s prayer. He doesn’t focus on physical ailments, financial stability, or protection from harm. Instead, his focus is on the spiritual formation of believers. He asks God to fill them with wisdom and spiritual understanding so they can live in a way that honors Jesus. Paul prays for their spiritual growth, strength, and gratitude for God’s blessings.

His prayer centers entirely on the spiritual reality that shapes their identity and purpose.

Contrast this with the typical prayers we hear during worship or small group gatherings. Most prayers are for physical realities—provision, healing, or safety. Let me be clear: these are entirely appropriate things to pray for. God desires us to bring our daily needs and concerns to Him.

However, the problem arises when we focus exclusively on physical needs at the expense of deeper spiritual realities. When we do that, we risk becoming fixated on the visible, tangible world while ignoring the unseen part of our existence—the part that holds eternal significance.

When people are struggling, it is good and proper to ask God to intervene in their circumstances. This is part of our responsibility as Christians. But we must also remember that spiritual maturity is essential to discipleship. We need to pray for one another’s faith, strength, understanding, and wisdom—these are critical for our spiritual formation.

Why Do We Default to the Physical?

A question worth pondering is: Why do we often default to praying for the physical rather than the spiritual?

Personally, I’ve struggled with the concept of the spiritual. It has sometimes felt intangible, almost unreal. In a world that often dismisses spiritual matters as mythical or irrelevant, it’s been easy for me to overlook.

Additionally, I once equated “spiritual” with “emotional.” Since I believed emotions were unreliable, I avoided anything I perceived as emotional—including the spiritual dimensions of prayer.

These are just a couple of reasons I’ve gravitated toward praying for the familiar and tangible physical realities of life, while avoiding the deeper spiritual dimensions that are just as important.

A Call to Transform Our Prayers

I believe the key to revitalizing our prayer life is to shift our focus. What if we intentionally made time in our prayers—both private and public—to pray like Paul did in Colossians 1:9–14?

Instead of focusing solely on healing and provision, we could also pray for God’s wisdom, strength, and transformative power to work in our hearts. Prayer has the potential to reshape our lives, but we must ask for what we truly need to be transformed.

As Jesus taught in Matthew 6:33:

“But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things will be provided for you.”

This verse challenges us to prioritize God’s kingdom and spiritual matters over worldly concerns.

Similarly, Romans 8:26–27 reassures us:

“The Spirit also helps us in our weakness, because we do not know what to pray for as we should, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us with inexpressible groanings. And he who searches our hearts knows the mind of the Spirit, because he intercedes for the saints according to the will of God.”

Even when spiritual realities feel distant or unclear, God’s Spirit intercedes on our behalf, guiding our prayers toward what truly matters.

Now is the time to deepen our prayer lives—to move from the shallow end, where we ask only for our physical needs, to the deep end, where we ask God for the spiritual wisdom and understanding we need to represent King Jesus in everything we say and do.

Let’s begin praying in ways that transform not just our circumstances, but also our hearts and lives.