Thursday, January 30, 2025

Moving Beyond the Shallow: Deepening Our Prayer Lives


Prayer can often be a source of frustration for me—not just in my own practice, but also when observing how others pray. It’s not that the intentions behind these prayers are wrong. In fact, they are often heartfelt and sincere. Yet at times, the focus seems misplaced and shallow. Perhaps “shallow” isn’t the perfect word, so let me explain.

By “shallow,” I’m referring to how our prayers tend to center on what we can see and touch—physical health, finances, safety, and other tangible concerns. While these are undoubtedly important, I can’t help but feel we often neglect something far greater: the deeper, unseen aspects of our spiritual lives.

Take, for example, Paul’s prayer for the believers in Colossae:

“For this reason also, since the day we heard this, we haven’t stopped praying for you. We are asking that you may be filled with the knowledge of his will in all wisdom and spiritual understanding, so that you may walk worthy of the Lord, fully pleasing to him: bearing fruit in every good work and growing in the knowledge of God, being strengthened with all power, according to his glorious might, so that you may have great endurance and patience, joyfully giving thanks to the Father, who has enabled you to share in the saints’ inheritance in the light. He has rescued us from the domain of darkness and transferred us into the kingdom of the Son he loves. In him we have redemption, the forgiveness of sins.” (Colossians 1:9–14, CSB)

Notice the content of Paul’s prayer. He doesn’t focus on physical ailments, financial stability, or protection from harm. Instead, his focus is on the spiritual formation of believers. He asks God to fill them with wisdom and spiritual understanding so they can live in a way that honors Jesus. Paul prays for their spiritual growth, strength, and gratitude for God’s blessings.

His prayer centers entirely on the spiritual reality that shapes their identity and purpose.

Contrast this with the typical prayers we hear during worship or small group gatherings. Most prayers are for physical realities—provision, healing, or safety. Let me be clear: these are entirely appropriate things to pray for. God desires us to bring our daily needs and concerns to Him.

However, the problem arises when we focus exclusively on physical needs at the expense of deeper spiritual realities. When we do that, we risk becoming fixated on the visible, tangible world while ignoring the unseen part of our existence—the part that holds eternal significance.

When people are struggling, it is good and proper to ask God to intervene in their circumstances. This is part of our responsibility as Christians. But we must also remember that spiritual maturity is essential to discipleship. We need to pray for one another’s faith, strength, understanding, and wisdom—these are critical for our spiritual formation.

A question worth pondering is: Why do we often default to praying for the physical rather than the spiritual?

Personally, I’ve struggled with the concept of the spiritual. It has sometimes felt intangible, almost unreal. In a world that often dismisses spiritual matters as mythical or irrelevant, it’s been easy for me to overlook.

Additionally, I once equated “spiritual” with “emotional.” Since I believed emotions were unreliable, I avoided anything I perceived as emotional—including the spiritual dimensions of prayer.

These are just a couple of reasons I’ve gravitated toward praying for the familiar and tangible physical realities of life, while avoiding the deeper spiritual dimensions that are just as important.

I believe the key to revitalizing our prayer life is to shift our focus. What if we intentionally made time in our prayers—both private and public—to pray like Paul did in Colossians 1:9–14?

Instead of focusing solely on healing and provision, we could also pray for God’s wisdom, strength, and transformative power to work in our hearts. Prayer has the potential to reshape our lives, but we must ask for what we truly need to be transformed.

As Jesus taught in Matthew 6:33:

“But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things will be provided for you.”

This verse challenges us to prioritize God’s kingdom and spiritual matters over worldly concerns.

Similarly, Romans 8:26–27 reassures us:

“The Spirit also helps us in our weakness, because we do not know what to pray for as we should, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us with inexpressible groanings. And he who searches our hearts knows the mind of the Spirit, because he intercedes for the saints according to the will of God.”

Even when spiritual realities feel distant or unclear, God’s Spirit intercedes on our behalf, guiding our prayers toward what truly matters.

Now is the time to deepen our prayer lives—to move from the shallow end, where we ask only for our physical needs, to the deep end, where we ask God for the spiritual wisdom and understanding we need to represent King Jesus in everything we say and do.

Let’s begin praying in ways that transform not just our circumstances, but also our hearts and lives.

Wednesday, January 29, 2025

The Power of Story

“Tolkien, like C. S. Lewis, believed that through story the real world becomes a more magical place, full of meaning. We see its pattern and colour in a fresh way. The recovery of a true view of things applies both to individual things like hills and stones, and to the cosmic—the depths of space and time itself.”

~ Colin Duriez, The J. R. R. Tolkien Handbook: A Concise Guide to His Life, Writings, and World of Middle-Earth

Stories hold immense power in our lives. They can help us see clearly when the challenges of life cloud our vision. They have a way of bypassing the barriers of our minds and speaking directly to our hearts, revealing truths we might otherwise ignore.

Consider the story of King David, a man after God’s own heart and an ancestor of Jesus. Despite his faith and legacy, David was deeply flawed. He committed adultery with Bathsheba and, to cover his sin, orchestrated the murder of her husband, Uriah—a loyal warrior and one of David’s elite “Mighty Men.”

Uriah’s loyalty makes David’s betrayal even more despicable. Uriah honored David, yet David stole his wife and arranged for his death. After these acts of treachery, David felt no apparent remorse. Life moved on: Bathsheba bore David a son, and the king continued his reign as if nothing had happened.

It wasn’t until the prophet Nathan confronted David that the king’s hardened heart finally broke. Nathan approached David not with accusations, but with a story.

“Your Majesty,” Nathan said, “I have a story to tell.”

David, perhaps eager for a moment of distraction, replied, “I love a good story. Let me hear it.”

Nathan told a tale of two men. One was rich, possessing vast herds and fields. The other was poor, owning just one cherished lamb, which he treated like family. When the rich man had guests, instead of taking from his own abundance, he stole the poor man’s lamb to serve at the feast.

David was enraged. “That man deserves to die!” he declared.

Then Nathan delivered the blow: “You are that man.”

Through this simple story, Nathan cut through David’s defenses. For more than a year, David had ignored his sin, going through the motions of worship without repentance. Nathan’s story bypassed David’s pride and opened his heart to conviction. It allowed him to see clearly again.

That is the power of story.

Stories have a unique ability to reveal spiritual realities, reconnect us with joy, rekindle love, and remind us of the beauty in God’s creation. They can expose hidden truths and inspire us to reflect, repent, and grow.

Ultimately, the greatest power of a story lies in its ability to point us to the greatest Story of all. Tolkien and Lewis understood this. To them, every great story echoes the Gospel—the True Story in which God enters His creation as a man, lives among us, dies for us, and rises again.

The Gospel is the ultimate narrative: God, the master Storyteller, crafting a tale of love, redemption, and triumph. It is the one story that is not only beautiful and meaningful but also True.

When used wisely, stories can lead us to the foot of the cross, the wonder of the empty tomb, and the hope of a Kingdom that is ever expanding.

That is the power of story.

* Though it wasn’t the point of this post, I think it is important to consider Bathsheba in this event of David’s life. We should ask questions like: How did she feel during this time? Did she even have a say in what happened? With Uriah, she was cherished, loved, and honored. With David, she became just another wife in his growing harem. She was a victim of David’s abuse of power.

Monday, January 27, 2025

Lessons from the King: Making an Impact


Called to Make an Impact

In the middle of the eighteenth century, the fight against the slave trade seemed like an impossible task. The trade was deeply ingrained in society, supported by powerful interests in Parliament, and widely accepted despite its inhumane cruelty. Christians began collecting evidence of the horrors of slavery, hoping to sway public opinion and bring about change. They needed a leader—someone to champion their cause in the political arena. That leader was William Wilberforce, a member of Parliament who experienced a profound conversion to Christianity in 1785.

Influenced by John Newton, a former slave trader turned pastor, Wilberforce felt called to use his position to fight for the abolition of the slave trade. He wrote, “So enormous, so dreadful, so irremediable did its wickedness appear that my own mind was completely made up for the abolition. A trade founded in iniquity and carried on as this was must be abolished.” For 20 years, Wilberforce faced intense opposition. Lord Melbourne, one of his critics, famously complained, “Things have come to a pretty pass when religion is allowed to invade public life.” But Wilberforce persevered, supported by Christians across England. Finally, in 1807, Parliament voted to abolish the slave trade.

Wilberforce’s story is a powerful example of how Christians can bring about moral and societal change. It reminds us that following Christ is not just personal—it’s a call to make an impact in the world for God’s Kingdom.

Too often, faith is viewed as a personal experience. It’s about my relationship with God, myblessings, and how God can improve my life. In this process, we overlook the reality of the Kingdom of Heaven. The Kingdom is not a future concept—something that begins when Jesus returns. It’s about the here and now. God’s Kingdom comes into the world as people live by faith in King Jesus.

It all depends on faith. Remember: we can’t be citizens of God’s Kingdom if we’re not faithful to the King. Just as loyalty defines good citizenship in any country, loyalty to King Jesus defines citizenship in the Kingdom of Heaven.


Background

Jesus began His ministry where John the Baptist left off: “Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand.” The Sermon on the Mount explores what it means to be a citizen of this Kingdom. The Beatitudes summarize the character and values of Kingdom citizens. It starts with, “Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the Kingdom of Heaven,” emphasizing total reliance on God. It ends with, “Blessed are those who are persecuted for righteousness' sake, for theirs is the Kingdom of Heaven,” acknowledging that citizens will face opposition.

Jesus assures us that being in the Kingdom is worth it, and then moves on to teach about the responsibilities of Kingdom citizens.


1. Salt of the Earth (Matthew 5:13)

To understand Jesus’ teaching, we need to grasp the uses of salt in His time. Salt purified, flavored, preserved, and symbolized the covenant with God. Jesus likely meant a combination of these uses. Salt influences its environment.

• What is Earth?: This refers to the ground, the land—specifically Israel, the Promised Land. Disciples as the “salt of the earth” had a mission to preserve and purify the faithful remnant of Israel, who were in danger of missing the Kingdom.

• The Mission to Impact God’s People: We have a responsibility to influence the Church by purifying it from outside influences and preserving it for King Jesus. We do this through our lives—with love, humility, mercy, and forgiveness—and through what we teach—Scripture and truth. 

If we lose our “saltiness”—our influence—we risk becoming irrelevant to the Kingdom.


2. Light of the World (Matthew 5:14-16)

Light illuminates darkness with love and truth. Isaiah used this imagery to remind Israel of their responsibility to represent God to the Gentiles. Jesus came as the Light of the World, and His followers are called to reflect His light.

• Evangelism: We illuminate darkness by teaching others about sin, salvation, and the new life found in Jesus. Our faithful lives—marked by love—demonstrate to the world that there is a better way to live. A covered light is useless.

• Two Sides of Discipleship: Salt represents spiritual formation—preserving and teaching the truth. Light represents evangelism—shining love and truth to those who don’t know God. Together, they encompass the responsibility of Kingdom citizens.

A covered light is useless. Similarly, our faithful lives must be visible to the world, guiding others to glorify God.


3. Fulfillment of the Law (Matthew 5:17-20)

This passage can be challenging, but it builds on the themes of salt and light. To be Kingdom people requires living righteous lives—being in right relationship with God and fulfilling the intent of His Law.

  • Jesus and the Law: Some accused Jesus of dismissing the Torah, but He clarified that He came to fulfill it. His teachings revealed the heart of the Law: love for God and love for people.

  • True Righteousness: Jesus taught that true righteousness isn’t about rigidly following rules but embodying the intent of the Law. This prioritizes people over legalism, as seen in the Parable of the Good Samaritan.

Our righteousness isn’t about earning God’s favor through works but about reflecting His love in our lives.


We Have a Responsibility

 Citizens of the Kingdom of Heaven have a responsibility to influence the world with Kingdom values. Salt preserves—influencing the Church. Light illuminates—bringing love and truth to those in darkness. Fulfilling these roles requires living righteous lives—not just adhering to the letter of the law but fulfilling its purpose through love for God and others.

Citizens of the Kingdom of Heaven are called to represent King Jesus in the world by showing people there is a better way to live. This is how the world is saved: by seeing the better way and being challenged to accept it.

How do I apply this to my life? Ask God how you can be salt and light in your corner of the world. Encourage a fellow Christian to remain faithful. Share the Gospel with someone who needs to hear it. Be salt and light in your sphere of influence.

May we faithfully represent King Jesus, influencing the world with His love and truth. In doing so, we invite others to experience the life-transforming power of His Kingdom.

Parenting in a Digital World: Guarding the Hearts and Minds of Our Children

In today’s digital world, parenting has taken on a new level of complexity. The rapid evolution of technology presents unique challenges—but also opportunities—for raising well-rounded, mindful children. Let’s dive into the essential principles, strategies, and insights from Session 3 of our series: Guarding the Hearts and Minds of Our Children.


Core Parenting Principles in a Digital World

At its core, digital-age parenting is about protecting, guiding, and empowering our children. To effectively navigate this journey, we must identify our "why":

  • Why does intentional digital parenting matter?

    • It matters because our children’s development matters.

    • We want to help them establish healthy boundaries with technology.

    • We aim to build a strong foundation for interacting with ever-evolving technology.

These principles can motivate us to overcome challenges like digital addiction, inconsistent enforcement of rules, and peer pressure from other families and children.


Building a Family Digital Culture

A strong digital culture provides clarity and alignment within the family. Here are steps to create your family’s digital culture:

  • Discuss and Plan: Define the role of technology in your home.

    • Set screen time limits and identify screen-free zones.

    • Decide on the appropriate age for introducing social media.

    • Discuss the types of technology your family will use and budget for.


Managing Screen Time

Screen time management is foundational for guiding children in the digital world:

  1. Set Clear Limits: Determine daily or weekly screen time allowances.

  2. Use Parental Controls: Learn how to enable time limits on devices. Tutorials on platforms like YouTube can provide step-by-step guidance.

  3. Model Healthy Habits: Children often mimic their parents’ behavior.


Avoiding Inappropriate Content

Understanding Inappropriate Content

Inappropriate content is anything that:

  • Is unsuitable based on age, personality, or history.

  • Contradicts moral or spiritual values.

What we consume shapes our thoughts, beliefs, and actions. Therefore, we should aim to focus on content that is praiseworthy, good, and true.

Types of Inappropriate Content

  1. Pornography:

    • Alarmingly prevalent, with websites like Pornhub drawing more traffic than Amazon and Netflix combined.

    • User-generated platforms like OnlyFans blur the lines between consumption and creation.

  2. Sexting:

    • Nearly 35% of youth have received a sext, and 19% have sent one.

    • Forwarding sexts without consent creates additional risks and legal implications.

  3. Video Games:

    • Many depict violent, explicit, or profane content (e.g., Grand Theft Auto).

    • Gaming and pornography often allow escapism into unhealthy fantasy worlds.

  4. Shows and Movies:

    • Popular series like Game of Thrones or Squid Game feature graphic violence and sexual content.

  5. Extreme or Conspiratorial Content:

    • Radical and false narratives can influence impressionable minds.

Steps to Minimize Exposure

  • Parental Controls:

    • Require all apps need parental approval before being installed.

    • Configure filters on devices to block inappropriate content.

    • Teach safe browsing practices and promote child-friendly platforms.

  • Teach About Inappropriate Content:

    • Discuss the dangers of pornography and harmful media.

    • Use Philippians 4:8-9 to explain the importance of putting good content into our minds and hearts.


Protecting Mental Health

The Rise of Social Media

Since its inception, social media has evolved:

  • First Wave (2003-2006): Platforms like MySpace and Facebook enabled simple connections.

  • Second Wave (2010-2013): Instagram and Snapchat introduced content consumption and influencers.

  • Third Wave (2014-Present): TikTok and Discord amplified content creation and instant feedback.

While these platforms connect us, they’ve also contributed to rising mental health concerns, especially among teens. Research reveals:

  • Depression among teens increased by 52% between 2005 and 2017.

  • Girls aged 12-17 experienced a 200% rise in major depressive episodes between 2010 and 2020.

  • Facebook’s own research linked Instagram to increased anxiety, depression, and body image issues among teens.

Why Social Media Affects Us

  1. Social Comparison: Seeing others’ “perfect” lives can harm self-esteem.

  2. Feedback Cycles: Likes and comments create a constant need for validation.

  3. Fear of Missing Out (FOMO): Missing online interactions can feel like being excluded.

  4. Perfectionism: Filters and curated posts amplify insecurities about appearance.

Dangers to Mental Health

  • Depression and Anxiety: Data shows a significant rise in these conditions post-2011.

  • Self-Harm: Non-fatal self-harm incidents among girls aged 10-14 surged by 189% between 2009 and 2015.

  • Suicide: The suicide rate for 10-24-year-olds increased by 57% between 2007 and 2017.

Recommendations for Social Media Use

  • Delay social media accounts until at least age 13.

  • Limit time spent on platforms to reduce depressive symptoms.

  • Encourage face-to-face social interactions over online relationships.

  • Conduct regular check-ins to discuss social media’s effects on mental health.


Improving Children’s Mental Health

  1. Encourage Open Communication:

    • Create a safe space for expressing emotions.

    • Actively listen and validate their feelings.

  2. Promote Healthy Habits:

    • Ensure adequate sleep, exercise, and a balanced diet.

  3. Foster Relationships:

    • Spend quality family time and encourage positive friendships.

  4. Encourage Hobbies:

    • Help them explore creative outlets like art, music, or sports.

  5. Teach Coping Skills:

    • Introduce mindfulness practices and problem-solving strategies.

  6. Limit Stressors:

    • Maintain consistent routines and monitor screen time.


Wrap-Up and Challenge

Parenting in a digital world requires vigilance and intentionality. Building a strong digital culture, avoiding inappropriate content, and protecting mental health are crucial steps to safeguard our children’s hearts and minds.

Challenge for the Week:

  • Use technology to manage technology: Enable parental controls and explore filtering tools to protect your family.

  • Commit to open discussions with your children about their digital habits and experiences.

Together, we can help our children thrive in a digital age while staying grounded in what truly matters. Let’s be proactive and intentional—because our children’s futures depend on it.

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